Although divorce is a sad ending to a marriage, it doesn’t always have to be damaging to children. Here’s 25 co-parenting tips to follow to help their children navigate the stormy seas of a broken home.
- Don’t recruit children to your side.
- Don’t give long-winded explanations about the divorce that may be confusing to kids.
- Contain your hostility in front of the children. It affects them when you fight, and it may make them feel that the divorce is their fault.
- Negotiate a healthy parenting relationship with your spouse. Being civil with your ex is so much better than exposing your children to ongoing anger.
- Stay involved in your children’s life.
- Keep handover times free of arguments and hostility.
- Get on the same page with when it comes to rules: bedtime, food habit, homework, video games, curfew, etc.
- Don’t bad mouth your ex in front of the children. It is your divorce, not theirs.
- Consider family counselling with your ex and/or children.
- Don’t bad mouth your ex’s family. That is your children’s family, and they will likely love them and need that connection.
- Be nice to your ex in front of the children. Your children will like it, and you may even get some positive feedback from your ex.
- Refrain from using your children as pawns, hostages or weapons.
- Periodically discuss with your children their wishes for residence and visitation.
- Facilitate private communication with each parent by phone, IM, postal mail, or e-mail.
- Refrain from asking your children to keep secrets from the other parent.
- Offer access to a neutral adult (therapist, teacher, or counsellor) who has the child’s interest as their primary concern.
- Don’t expose your child to transient romantic relationships.
- Don’t use your children as messengers. It is not their job to communicate for you.
- Reassure the children that the divorce in not their fault.
- Never substitute gifts for love and attention.
- Do tell your kids that both parents will love them.
- Do tell your kids that you do expect them to continue to be happy.
- Do not abandon contact with your children under any circumstances.
- If your children continue to appear overwhelmed, get them professional counselling.
- Always tell the truth.
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